Dr. Judith Gerhart, CFP
Certified Divorce Financial Analyst 
Post Divorce
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Thursday, August 27th, 2009
Connect through special dates:
Every now and then create a special outing alone with just one of your children. Take them to lunch, the zoo, a big-city shopping trip, a sports game or a wonderful movie. Children cherish alone time with you and the opportunity to catch up with one another without competition from siblings. Prepare [...]
Divorce and Children: Part 4
Wednesday, August 26th, 2009
Connect through a new project:
After divorce many things change in a child’s life. It’s a good opportunity to create connection through new projects that take on special meaning. Whether it’s a multi-day puzzle, a plastic model you complete together, new shelves or other decorating project in their bedroom, this shared time is a wonderful time [...]
Divorce and Children: Part 3
Tuesday, August 25th, 2009
Connect through bedtime routine:
It’s always wise to create a before bedtime routine with your children that integrates warm connection. Spend time reading books on changing themes, talk about your own childhood memories and challenges. Share your own insecurities and how you overcame them. It’s also beneficial to ask your child about the best part of [...]
Divorce and Children: Part 2
Monday, August 24th, 2009
Connect through idle chats:
Take advantage of idle moments here and there when you’re together with your child. Driving in the car is a great time to ask questions, share your feelings, and be empathic about their comments. When you’re helping them with homework, cooking meals together or doing other chores you can strike up a [...]
Divorce and Children: Part 1
Sunday, August 23rd, 2009
Connect through notes:
If you’re living together, slip a note in your child’s lunch box or notebook every few days. A quick joke, cartoon, reminder about a special event ahead or just a warm “I Love You!” will let them know they’re on your mind and in your heart. If you’re not spending time together, send [...]
Helping Your Child Cope
Saturday, August 22nd, 2009
Divorce is an adult concern. Children do not need to know all of the sordid details which have transpired to create the result. Children do however, need to know they are not the cause of the situation. Children are by nature egocentric. It stands to reason that if a child does not understand what is [...]
More Obstacles
Friday, August 21st, 2009
We Don’t Understand the Part that Feelings Play - If we can calm bad feelings, often we can settle the divorce. This may require us to allow our spouse to talk about their feelings, or yell about their feelings, without us over reacting.
Finger-Pointing - When dealing with a victim ex, there is no point in [...]
Obstacles to a Friendly Divorce Settlement
Thursday, August 20th, 2009
One Party Wants a Divorce and the Other Party Doesn’t - When the announcement is made the party who did not know about the divorce is often very traumatized.
The Parties Make Decisions Differently - Even outside of the divorce arena you can see how people make decisions differently. Some people like to think about it, research [...]
Divorce and Finance
Wednesday, August 19th, 2009
There are many financial considerations to make in divorce settlements. Consider children’s tax exemptions, child tax credits, education tax credits, future retirement pensions, and life insurance benefits. Also, always remember to factor in the impact of future taxes on all assets.
Many parents negotiate the allocation and use of the personal exemptions for the children on [...]
Is That Divorce Worth the Cost to Your Health?
Wednesday, August 19th, 2009
A study scheduled to be published in the September issue of the Journal of Health and Social Behavior, analyzes data from nearly 9,000 adults nationwide, ages 51 to 61, and finds those who had been divorced or widowed suffered 20 percent more chronic health conditions, such as heart disease, diabetes or cancer, than individuals who [...]
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