Dr. Judith Gerhart, CFP
Certified Divorce Financial Analyst 
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Monday, August 11th, 2008
There are a number if reasons why married couples remained with each other.
Society looked at the individuals as failures if their marriage broke up and therefore stayed together as a result. Apart from the media, much of the stigma of divorce came from family, friends and peers.
Today, more and more people are living longer and therefore the [...]
Inner Game of Wealth
Monday, July 14th, 2008
The panic of suddenly being alone.
Do you see any patterns around money? Did you expect your partner to provide for you or did you come from a family where women took over for men who didn’t want to control money? I know I did this and I did it so I could have control [...]
Look For Fear Behind Other People’s Attempts to Control You
Friday, June 27th, 2008
Instead of getting irritated with someone who tries to control you, try to understand the fear that motivates that person’s behaviour. If you can soothe those fears, the control will diminish. Yet you may have to rely on your own insight and intuition, because controllers seldom know the fears that motivate them.
In fact, if you [...]
Questions to ask Yourself: Money and Marriage
Friday, June 20th, 2008
Questions to ask yourself about money and marriage
* How often in your marriage did fear control you?
* How often did you let your husband control you, by your trying to be compassionate?
* Did you use the compassionate excuse to avoid having to deal with issues around money?
* Do you feel that you were compassionate - [...]
Settlements: 15 Critical Financial Mistakes Often Made in the Heat of Divorce
Monday, June 16th, 2008
When you’re going through the pain and emotional battles of a divorce, it’s easy to overlook financial issues that can hurt you long after any hard feelings have healed. Here are 15 critical financial mistakes that you can’t afford during a breakup:
1. Don’t be a financial victim.
If you suspect that your spouse is planning a [...]
Common Responses to Divorce
Friday, June 13th, 2008
What do you do?
Some of the common responses to this divorce scenario are:
The Top Ten Myths of Divorce
Saturday, June 7th, 2008
1. Because people learn from their bad experiences, second marriages tend to be more successful than first marriages.
Although many people who divorce have successful subsequent marriages, the divorce rate of remarriages is in fact higher than that of first marriages.
2. Living together before marriage is a good way to reduce the chances of [...]
Five Steps to A Better Divorce
Wednesday, June 4th, 2008
Based on 36 years of experience with cases numbering in the tens of thousands, divorce specialist attorney Ed Sherman knows exactly what you can do to make any divorce better. Here’s an overview - five essential steps to getting a better divorce:
1. Go slow. Unless there’s an immediate threat of harm to you or children, [...]
Dealing with the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce
Friday, May 30th, 2008
Although the basic emotional stages of divorce are essentially the same for both men and women, there are practical differences in the recovery period and these differences are mainly rooted in cultural habits.
North American society has undergone a quiet revolution. Most important has been the economic independence of women.
In the 1940’s only one in seven [...]
Money Issues and Divorce
Thursday, May 29th, 2008
Coping with the accompanying money issues
Money issues, particularly at this time, are a challenge.
Managing a home…
taking a job…
learning to handle finances…
especially when throughout the marriage you’ve been told this is not your skill set-all these things become daunting tasks. As expected, this stress is compounded by the emotional chaos in your life.
It’s critical to have [...]
