Dr. Judith Gerhart, CFP
Certified Divorce Financial Analyst 
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Children’s Well-Being is Paramount in Divorce
June 28, 2009
Unfortunately, divorce has become a common and reoccurring aspect of life these days. Therefore, the greatest gift that can be given to the children of divorcing parents is solicitous, loving, unselfish interest. It is paramount to keep in mind that their hearts and minds are hurting. While their sense of stability is shattering around them, it is the responsibility of the parents to give them a sense of wholeness to ensure a healthy psyche.
Even if it is an acrimonious divorce, it is still each parent’s responsibility to preserve the healthiness of the psyches’ of the innocent children. Some thoughts to ponder for the preservation of their mental health:
- It is crucial that the parents sit down together to explain to the children that it is not the children’s fault. If at all possible, it is a gift to the child if they know that their parents are still friends. It is paramount that unkind words should never be spoken about the other parent to the children. That is the greatest gift you can give your children.
- Maintain a steady physical presence for your children and make their needs the most important aspect. Unselfishness is crucial.
- Try to keep the atmosphere in the house upbeat and moving smoothly. Keep a sense of humor. Laughter has healing powers. Children have an innate need to see their parents being happy. Encourage the other spouse to be a vital part of their lives. Remind yourself that the children of divorce need the normalcy of interaction. The only exception would be if the children face an unsafe environment.
By: Hunter Darden
Posted by Judith Gerhart on June 28, 2009 | Permalink | Post a comment
