Dr. Judith Gerhart, CFP
Certified Divorce Financial Analyst 
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Dating Tips
July 29, 2009
Even though your marriage did not work out, there are ways to improve the odds of finding a compatible companion. Many licensed marriage and family therapists say one key to finding a mate with whom you can build a strong and successful relationship is not feeling rushed to pair up by an artificial deadline.
1. Learn to feel comfortable with being alone. Ruthy Kaiser, another licensed marriage and family therapist with the Council for Relationships, said to recognize that loneliness drives some people to couple. Don’t rush into a partnership just for the sake of having a mate, she said.
2. Look to different types of relationships to meet your desire for companionship or other needs. Kaiser said, “Develop a strong support system with friends of the same sex so you have your needs met elsewhere and there not this disproportionate need to seek a mate.” This allows you to look upon having a partner as a nice addition to your life instead of a necessity.
3. Remember timing is a factor. Assess whether you are really ready to date. And if you are, make sure the person you are interested in is ready, too, Kaiser said.
By: Charlotte Hale
Posted by Judith Gerhart on July 29, 2009 | Permalink | Post a comment
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