Dr. Judith Gerhart, CFP
Certified Divorce Financial Analyst 
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Divorce and Games Children Play
June 19, 2009
1. I’ll Be on Your Side if You Give me What I Want: Children sometimes tell a parent what the other parent has given them or the places the other parent has taken them to try to gain similar advantages from that parent. Children sometimes tell a parent the grievances they have about the other parent to make that parent play into their hands.
2. But Mom (or Dad) Said Yes: This game also is played by children to get their own way at the expense of one of the parents. Children know the kinds of events or activities that one parent may allow but not the other. This game particularly works well if the parent who allows the activity is outside the home. The children enlist that parent’s support and if the other parent says no, children drop the bombshell – ‘but dad/mom said it would be OK’. This also works when parents have different rules or responsibilities for the children.
By: Corinne Frontiero
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