Dr. Judith Gerhart, CFP
Certified Divorce Financial Analyst 
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Do you see similar patterns of behaviour?
July 10, 2008
Research suggests that you will spend the next five years or so re-examining yourself, your marriage and your past.
You may begin to see patterns of behaviour. You may see how much your spouse now mirrors many of the issues that existed in your family of origin. How the men in your life are all pretty much the same.
Here’s a reality bite: While it once might have been familiar and comfortable, it is no longer acceptable to be treated poorly and to be unappreciated.
Interestingly enough, this reflection often does not cross over into how you view money. Yet we know that the patterns with money are long established in your upbringing and family of origin.
Think about the following questions and how they apply to your marriage today..
Who controlled money in your family of origin?
Was money viewed as hard to come by or easy?
What kind of discussions happened around money, if any at all?
Was money admired or discussed as “dirty, bad, wrong?”
What kind of adages did your parents and teachers quote to you: things like “money doesn’t grow on trees” or “it takes money to make money?”
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