Dr. Judith Gerhart, CFP
Certified Divorce Financial Analyst 
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August 21, 2009
We Don’t Understand the Part that Feelings Play - If we can calm bad feelings, often we can settle the divorce. This may require us to allow our spouse to talk about their feelings, or yell about their feelings, without us over reacting.
Finger-Pointing - When dealing with a victim ex, there is no point in pointing a finger toward them. You may as well pour acid on your wounds for all the good it will do.
Divorce Papers - Just the word “the papers” can cause fear. They are very formal, legal documents and they can cause acrimony all by themselves.
Your Spouse Might Want Vengeance - Unnecessary delays are often caused when one party feels wronged and justified using the court system to punish the guilty party.
Overestimating Our legal Rights - Due to legal television shows, media and other avenues where people glean their information, there is a lot of misinformation about divorce law.
We Underestimate the Fury We Will Face - Being properly prepared before reaching the settlement table can go far in helping us deal with this problem. The best way to prepare for being insulted is to know that you are going to be insulted.
By: J. Richard Kulerski
Posted by Judith Gerhart on August 21, 2009 | Permalink | Post a comment
Topics: Divorce, Post Divorce |
