Dr. Judith Gerhart, CFP
Certified Divorce Financial Analyst 
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Questions to ask Yourself: Money and Marriage
June 20, 2008
Questions to ask yourself about money and marriage
* How often in your marriage did fear control you?
* How often did you let your husband control you, by your trying to be compassionate?
* Did you use the compassionate excuse to avoid having to deal with issues around money?
* Do you feel that you were compassionate - good job, but now you are not so sure it was the healthy route to take.
* Do you have a good handle on your finances today?
Money in a relationship is not about power and control. We use it as a tool for power and control. Women have been uncomfortable talking about money. We don’t talk about it and investing the way men do in the “locker room.” So in our marriage it stand to reason that we did no thave the knowledge or communication tools to manage this subject material.
In separation, divorce and widowhood this challenge is compounded even more. Even talking to professionals - lawyers, accountants, financial planners makes us uncomfortable. We assume that if we pay the right people, they’ll make our interests important. Reality Check: it’s like bringing your car to a garage: the more informed you are and better you can describe the problem to the mechanic, the better service you’ll receive. Ignorance is not bliss.
Please tune in for more on this topic Friday:
The confident shall inherit the earth. And more.
This is Dr. Judith Gerhart wishing you an empowering and fulfilled day!
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