Dr. Judith Gerhart, CFP
Certified Divorce Financial Analyst 
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Tips of the Day Part II
July 31, 2008
1. Get a grip:
Emery says that divorce dredges up all kinds of emotions, from pain and grief to loneliness and fear that easily morph into anger.
It’s important, he says to “recognize your feelings and separate them from what you’ve got to do on a day-to-day basis.” And although you’re not likely at first, to be friends with your ex, “work to have a businesslike relationship,” Sherman says.
“Make an agreement that you’re not going to discuss personal stuff while discussing the business of divorce,” he suggests, and set up a separate time to hash out personal matters.
2. Be well:
As your divorce proceeds, “take care of yourself in whatever ways you can,” Ahron suggests. “Be with close friends when you can. Find a safe haven where you can talk. Go to sleep earlier.
Plan special treats: Get a massage or go to the movies. Watch your drinking and eating behavior.” Finally, Ahron says, “If you can’t get out of feeling very depressed, lonely or angry, get professional help.”
Sherman adds: “The thing your child needs most is for you to be okay, to be well. You can’t fool them.”
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